Ok, maybe this is out of line but I feel the need to put this out here.

So, I see all of these posts and quotes about how beauty comes in all different sizes, and skins colors. How there should not be an ideal beauty of skinny, big-busted women with long legs.

And I agree with that. Your weight should not dictate whether society thinks you are pretty or not. Nor should your skin color! Personally I feel like no one can achieve perfection quite like an african american woman, i just think their skin is so smooth and beautiful.

However, Everyone seems to put all of their effort into saying that, “weight shouldn’t matter”, “beauty comes in all sizes”, But nobody is practicing what they preach. 

I feel like if a larger woman who felt put-down by society, actually believed that she was beautiful, regardless of her proportions, she wouldn’t need numerous ads and videos to make her feel better.

I think the answer isn’t more hate towards ‘society’ and the ‘ideal beauty’ it’s more confidence in yourself.

I know that I am a beautiful person. I am content with myself, and my body, but not because I’m skinny with big boobs, but because I know that I have a personality that is worth more than the body it is encased in. I have dealt with my own insecurities, and sometimes I still have to deal with them, like fear that anytime a guy talks to me, it’s because he wants to get with me, not that he actually wants to talk with me. There’s nothing quite like getting thought of as nothing more than a pair of tits..

I don’t know, I really don’t want this to come off mean, or cruel, but I’m just not seeing a solution here. Every day on my tumblr feed, I see posts tearing down societies ideal beauty and promoting the thought that everyone is beautiful. But if you looked inside of yourself to find your own confidence, you wouldn’t need a gajillion support posts.

The solution to your self-image problems does not lie anywhere but in your own mind, and in your own eyes when you look at yourself in the mirror.

And, just a thought to remember, calling people “skinny bitches” or slamming people saying “no one really looks like that” hurts as much as being called a “fat bitch” or saying “how can someone live like that”. I AM a real woman. and I AM that size. But my size and weight should have absolutely no effect on how you feel about your weight and size. And I refuse to hide myself because people take it like that.